Parenting? Or Babysitting

And, we're back! After a pretty long hiatus from the blogging game, I am finally here to stay! Between a move, a job change for my husband, and a brand new baby, life got pretty chaotic to say the least, but it helped me refocus and get prepared for what I feel like I want and need to say for this season of life and this is where I landed for my first blog of the year! With one baby in the other room sleeping, one at daycare and the other crawling on top of my trying to give me kisses, we are going to bust this out pretty quick!!

I am finally coming to the almost 3 year mark of becoming a mom. It feels weird even typing it, everyone says time flies when you have kids so take each moment, season and stage of their lives with grace and patience. Most importantly cherish it because it will be over too soon. To be honest, I never really understood that until now. With Roman enrolling in PRESCHOOL (AHHH I SAID IT) in the fall, I have been shaken to my core. Most importantly, I came to the realization of this one simple fact, for the majority of my Parenthood journey, I looked at my kids with more of a babysitter mind set rather than one of a parent.

I have lived my last 3 years trying to keep them alive and safe from moment to moment, rather than understanding the fact that I am responsible for molding a future adult. I am responsible for teaching them responsibility, healthy self esteem and how to behave as a proper adult in the future. For example, do I see the value in helping my son learn to tie his shoe, rather than rushing to get him ready and doing it myself. Or do I see the importance of teaching him how to clean his room or do i just clean up after him myself. Most of the time I am in such a hurry I don't slow down enough to teach my little ones how to do these things. Then, I recently realized if I don't take the time do this, NO ONE ELSE WILL take or carry that responsibility (MINUS MY HUSBAND).

So as a PARENT not a BABYSITTER I am and have committed these last two weeks and for the future, to slow down and take my time. I am going to take my time to teach these little dudes how to function in life with out mommy. I don't want them to grow up too fast, but I don't want them to not GROW UP at all. So for all my moms out there struggling, you GOT THIS!! WE GOT THIS!